All my single ladies

If he like you then he will put a ring on it 🙂 I usually make a point to stay focused on fashion but being that I’m an extremely innovative person u will read posts that focus on encouragement and the beauty of womanhood. I came across 10 ways to go from being girlfriend to wife to share with my Egotistic Ladies just in time for Vday! Hey you might get some carats inside that box of chocolates if u follow these guidelines 🙂

1. Be a Woman All Day, Everywhere

Have respect, pride and dignity for yourself. If you let your friends take advantage of you, so will your man. If you come home crying about your job every day without being proactive about getting a new one, your man is not going to find that attractive. Be sexy, sweet, sassy, feminine and most of all, be womanly.

Egotistic Egotism: This is the most important one if u ask me!!! So many women are intimidated by men so they sometimes allow them to say & do whatever to them to either please them or because they are afraid to stick up for themselves. NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO DISRESPECT YOU! ALWAYS HOLD YOUR GROUND!!! Respect is far more attractive than insecurities!!

2. Be Independent

Not just financially, but be an independent thinker overall. Take the time to learn you and what works best for you instead of taking someone else’s advice and forcing yourself into a box. Your core person should not change simply because you are in a relationship. Be independent of your man and have your own life.

Egotistic Egotism: Always have your own life!! Its a huge turn off to be a bug a boo because your bored and harassing him!! Have your own set of friends, goals and most importantly your own career! You both should always bring something to the table!!

3. Stay On Your Tippy Toes

Don’t get comfortable and lazy on your man. Don’t just think that he is going to marry you because you have been together for a few years. Get fine-ER, get smart-ER, be bett-ER. A man wants to see growth in you and wants to be excited about who you will be in the future.

Egotistic Egotism:AMEN!!! Wether its 5 months in or 10 years the flame should always be burning! Stay alert, fresh and interesting!

4. Turn His House Into a Home

As a single brother, my crib had the bare necessities. A woman came by one day and slowly started to upgrade my stuff in a very subtle but profound way because no woman had ever done it before. First it was a couple nice decorative candles; then she replaced my pictures and artwork. She helped me paint a couple of rooms in my house. I was like “She knows what she doing, I am going to marry her.”

5. Be a Godly Woman

There is just something sexy to me about a Godly woman. You want a Godly man, don’t you? The Bible is a relationship handbook. Read it. Follow it. Live by it. When your man is weak, you need to be able to refer to that word. When the Devil attacks, he needs to know that you know God.

6. Watch His Momma, Do What She Do

You don’t have to be his Momma, but you should try to be in her likeness. Here is an example: during the holidays when you were at your man’s family home, if his grandma, momma and auntie were all in the kitchen and you were in the den watching the game with him, y’all probably had the best time ever, right? But guess what, he’s probably going to break up with you. You should be in that kitchen with his female relatives or else go and find yourself a man whose mother can’t cook.

Egotistic Egotism: Only follow this one if his mother is worthy of being followed!!

7. Challenge Him

If a man doesn’t have to respect you, he won’t. I tell people all the time, if my wife would allow me to have a girlfriend I would, and I go to church every Sunday. A man is not going to do the right thing unless he knows that if he does the wrong thing it will be met with repercussions and consequences.

8. Be His Biggest Fan

Women need love. Men need their egos stroked. We need your support, your encouragement, and we need to know that you believe in us. Tell him that he is a good man, that you are lucky to have him, that he is special and better than you thought. If he doesn’t feel like a man, he is not going to be a good man to you.

9.Nurture Him

The art of nurturing a man has been lost. Talk sweet to your man and whisper sweet nothings in his ear. Hug him, hold him, squeeze him too. Being a Black man is hard but with the nurturing of a good Black woman, it’s that much easier.

10. Be the Freakiest Person He Knows

Men talk and our number one conversation is about sex. So when a man is rapping with his friend he needs a good story to tell. At least twice a year he needs to have something that will make his boys say “Dang man, I wish my woman would do that!” Shoot, just the other day me and my wife were making this video right and…wait, let me clear this with the wife first before I tell y’all. Basically, a man has to know and believe that there is not a woman out there that is going to try harder to please him than you.

GOOD LUCK LADIES 🙂

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